Posted on Mar 27, 2024

“The first step to changing your life always starts with a single, bold choice - deciding you can. The second step to changing your life….Is repeating the first.”  

- Coached By Nikki Dyer 


The acts of being brave and courageous are not intuitive, and they’re certainly not  comfortable. In fact, I doubt you wake up in the morning wondering “how can I make  myself weak and vulnerable today?” Being brave isn’t something someone is born with, it’s  something someone learns to do. Bravery is a practice and a habit, and it is often the  single bold choice standing between you and your dreams.  

“Courage is a habit, a virtue: you get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by  swimming. You learn courage by couraging.” - Mary Daly  

It takes practice to become brave by habit, and practice does not mean perfection. It  simply means making the decision to try, and having the willingness to repeat it.  


Mel Robbins has what she likes to call The 5 Second Rule, and she’s not referring to  dropped food on the floor. Her theory suggests it takes 5 seconds for your brain to kick in  and decide whether or not it’s going to do something.  

There is always that split second where we are faced with a decision. A brief moment  where we can either hesitate or decide to jump in anyway. Within that micro-moment, our  brain begins to travel down the familiar path of self-doubt, fear and what it likes to do best  - keep us safe.  

Mel’s concept is the simple act of counting backward… 5, 4, 3, 2, and to act as you reach 1.  Comparing your decision to a rocket blasting off, this process cuts down on the brain’s  ability to self-sabotage and gives you a fresh opportunity to replace an old habit with a  new one.  


To me, being one of the brave ones has always meant showing up every day with courage,  authenticity, and a commitment to my truth and goals. The act of being brave is being  willing to show up while fully knowing you don’t have it all figured out just yet. 

Good things come to those who persevere, especially those who practice courage.  Digging deep, finding strength, and poking holes in our old and tired excuses can be one  of the most rewarding joys in life.  

Here are 5 simple ways to embody bravery and turn your dreams into your reality.  


Self-love is a skill you can develop - much like bravery or self-confidence. Simply put, self love means that you have an appreciation, and positive regard for who you already are. Loving yourself means seeing your strengths and weaknesses as a part of you and not making one better over the other.  

Despite what the perfectionists may think, loving yourself doesn’t mean holding yourself to  impossibly high standards either. It simply means embracing who you truly are, and seeing  it (maybe for the first time!) as perfect without changing a thing.  


Stepping out of your comfort zone means learning new things, meeting new people,  traveling to new places, and letting yourself say YES to new experiences. Just outside of  your comfort zone lies an expanded world and viewpoint. The type of growth so many of  us crave happens when we push ourselves beyond our self-imposed limits.  


Turning your dreams into reality is much harder if you don’t have a clear picture of what  you want. This is why tools like vision boards and visualization meditations gives your wild  imagination a little more structure. Seeing your dreams either in your mind or in front of  you motivates and inspires you to achieve your goals. You don’t need to run to the craft  store to vision board these days. Instagram and Pinterest are great ways to save photos  that inspire you and the best part is that they aren’t set in stone -- you can change it as  many times as your dreams do! 


Allow yourself the gift of being seen and heard - especially in moments of fear or uncertainty. Embracing imperfections means letting yourself be your beautiful and quirky self. Vulnerability is a strength that connects us deeply with others. When we allow  ourselves to be truly seen for who we are, it also gives others the opportunity to feel safe being their true selves, too. 


You can make the most detailed plan for your future, but there’s no telling what road block or detour might be placed on your path along the way. Setbacks can be discouraging in the moment, but they’re also great opportunities to continue learning and growing. Sometimes a misstep or change in direction can be just what you need to loosen the reins  and allow the universe to guide you. 


Few things make me shrink down and cringe like the question “where do you see yourself  in five years?” Yet, it is this question that has led me to some of my most revealing  moments where my aspirations and dreams come into true focus in unexpected ways.  Guided meditations are the perfect place to learn and focus on your goals, dreams, and  where you may be creating your own road blocks.  

This 10 minute morning meditation, titled TIME OF MY LIFE, is the perfect mindfulness  practice to begin your day with a fresh outlook and the confidence to do anything. Allow  yourself to experience just how far you have come and how hard you have been working  to achieve your dreams and goals, connect to the present moment, and celebrate the  obstacles you have overcome along the way. 

You have so much potential and the possibilities for you are endless. Think outside of the  box and don’t let anyone tell you that it can’t be done. 

Your future is yours to create! 

For more inspiration and guidance on how to bring more love, in all its forms, into your life  with ease, schedule a breakthrough coaching session with Nikki HERE.